Mysteries of Adulteries
Freedom is like Virginity, either you have it or not. The famous line “I have a bit of …” doesn’t go with either.
I recently moved to Pune for my higher studies and in my view Pune endow you with virginity, oh I mean freedom. A student dominated city, who come from all corners of the country and also from places which are not so much in the corner.
Good from far, far from good. The place is a real paradise for the youth of the country. With its Modern - Western Culture and availability of Booze, Grass, Hash etc., it provides ample opportunities, in addition to the educational and employment prospects.
Let me tell you being a stranger in a stranger land is a real BLISS. As it is correctly said, “If anything can go wrong it will.” But here nothing can, you don’t know anyone and no one knows you (I mean in most cases), so put on your dance shoes, loosen yourself up and be live your wildest dreams.
Love means a score of ZERO, so if your score of being in love (or having a girlfriend or boyfriend or whatever according to your orientation) is ZERO i.e. is you are love (zero) itself go to such a place and be a hero (Ya, thats how v differentiate).
The other LOVE according to me is a very over-rated term. It could be because the movies, television serials, magazines all selling dreams.
Anyways, Dictionaries are weird things. They define everything, even LOVE.
Oxford says, “1. an intense feeling of deep affection. 2. a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone.”
Further Love at first sight, EESSSHHHH. Hilarious concept isn't it? One day a friend of mine was in an Archies Gallery, a guy approached her and said, “Do you believe in love at first sight or should I come again.” (I fall in love very often, so me included). First day you see someone, second day you approach them, third day you are in a relation. On the 13th day, realization dawns upon us. “We incompatible with each other”. BANG!! “You have changed” “I don’t like you” “We should go our separate ways.” Classical example of a crumble.
At a deeper Chemical Level:
Dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin are active during the attraction phase of a relationship. Oxytocin, and vasopressin secreted cause long term bonding and relationships characterized by strong attachments. Last or may be first are adequate brain levels of testosterone important for both male and female sexual drive.
It’s perfectly ok to part ways when you are incompatible…
But the mantra for the day looks something like:
Love is Desolate
Romance is Temporary
Sex is Forever
I am not sure which chemicals are causing what now a days, but surly then we might be suffering from Testosteroniasis (excess).
Having a girlfriend/boyfriend is a status symbol. Many prefer an Extra affairtal- Affair, or Extra Marital Affair.
I remember a joke about a married couple:
Son come running to mom and tells her “Dad says I should not talk to neighbor’s daughter because she is my sister.”
Mom replies “Don’t worry son, you are not related to your father.”
Hey, what am I talking!! Am I on the verge of losing my sanity? No really I wanted to draw a conclusion so I wrote the crap above.
LOVE to me is Respect, Love is Trust, Love is a Commitment that we would make things work. Love is not a compromise, it’s not a sacrifice but still love justifies. As OSHO aplty says, “Love relates but is not a relation”. It would always be possible to find someone better, but we might need to understand that everytime it will be a package deal... if we accept someone for their good qualities (looks, outlook towards life, attitude etc), then we must also be ready to accept their not so good habits or ways of life. Some wise man once told "Opposite values are Complimentary".
Hoping to have solved to mystery… and no offence to Pune, but this place has been bringing a lot out of me...
Good Night and Good LOVE I mean Luck.
I recently moved to Pune for my higher studies and in my view Pune endow you with virginity, oh I mean freedom. A student dominated city, who come from all corners of the country and also from places which are not so much in the corner.
Good from far, far from good. The place is a real paradise for the youth of the country. With its Modern - Western Culture and availability of Booze, Grass, Hash etc., it provides ample opportunities, in addition to the educational and employment prospects.
Let me tell you being a stranger in a stranger land is a real BLISS. As it is correctly said, “If anything can go wrong it will.” But here nothing can, you don’t know anyone and no one knows you (I mean in most cases), so put on your dance shoes, loosen yourself up and be live your wildest dreams.
Love means a score of ZERO, so if your score of being in love (or having a girlfriend or boyfriend or whatever according to your orientation) is ZERO i.e. is you are love (zero) itself go to such a place and be a hero (Ya, thats how v differentiate).
The other LOVE according to me is a very over-rated term. It could be because the movies, television serials, magazines all selling dreams.
Anyways, Dictionaries are weird things. They define everything, even LOVE.
Oxford says, “1. an intense feeling of deep affection. 2. a deep romantic or sexual attachment to someone.”
Further Love at first sight, EESSSHHHH. Hilarious concept isn't it? One day a friend of mine was in an Archies Gallery, a guy approached her and said, “Do you believe in love at first sight or should I come again.” (I fall in love very often, so me included). First day you see someone, second day you approach them, third day you are in a relation. On the 13th day, realization dawns upon us. “We incompatible with each other”. BANG!! “You have changed” “I don’t like you” “We should go our separate ways.” Classical example of a crumble.
At a deeper Chemical Level:
Dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin are active during the attraction phase of a relationship. Oxytocin, and vasopressin secreted cause long term bonding and relationships characterized by strong attachments. Last or may be first are adequate brain levels of testosterone important for both male and female sexual drive.
It’s perfectly ok to part ways when you are incompatible…
But the mantra for the day looks something like:
Love is Desolate
Romance is Temporary
Sex is Forever
I am not sure which chemicals are causing what now a days, but surly then we might be suffering from Testosteroniasis (excess).
Having a girlfriend/boyfriend is a status symbol. Many prefer an Extra affairtal- Affair, or Extra Marital Affair.
I remember a joke about a married couple:
Son come running to mom and tells her “Dad says I should not talk to neighbor’s daughter because she is my sister.”
Mom replies “Don’t worry son, you are not related to your father.”
Hey, what am I talking!! Am I on the verge of losing my sanity? No really I wanted to draw a conclusion so I wrote the crap above.
LOVE to me is Respect, Love is Trust, Love is a Commitment that we would make things work. Love is not a compromise, it’s not a sacrifice but still love justifies. As OSHO aplty says, “Love relates but is not a relation”. It would always be possible to find someone better, but we might need to understand that everytime it will be a package deal... if we accept someone for their good qualities (looks, outlook towards life, attitude etc), then we must also be ready to accept their not so good habits or ways of life. Some wise man once told "Opposite values are Complimentary".
Hoping to have solved to mystery… and no offence to Pune, but this place has been bringing a lot out of me...
Good Night and Good LOVE I mean Luck.
Comments
n yes i truly agree love is not a compromise or a sacrifice....n yes u must accept their not so good habits or ways of life......ahhhhh i wish...
'ANYWAYS'....liked wat u have written...very true and perfect wen it comes 2 pune.....so true....
Good...Nice.....muaah
we started up with freedom and we end at love ??
i accept and want more out of you buddy
//BR
Indi
It seems to be, that your (the owner/writer) presence in a new city, you coming across the way this (our) generation behaves in the name of "Love" getting more apparent or observational here lead you to express this query about what do we think or decide when we talk about "Love". And you start from "freedom" and "virginity", two very unrelated words connected so beautifully here. These two words knowingly or unknowingly haunts every present generation's brains especially when they are so called "In Love". And you then gradually reach to talk about Love with different connotations and impression this word has been carrying since long.
Every person has a perception of "LOVE" but it would take long to discuss mine here. But with different aspects and issues mentioned here, I found a serious contradiction as per my same perception which I can not curb within to hold. i.e between the thoughts behind commenting "It’s perfectly ok to part ways when you are incompatible…" AND when you explain "It would always be possible to find someone better, BUT we might need to understand that everytime it will be a package deal... if we accept someone for their good qualities (looks, outlook towards life, attitude etc), then we must also be ready to accept their not so good habits or ways of life. Some wise man once told "Opposite values are Complimentary"
If the latter is the available way out, then where and why does incompatibility stand.
Giving a wierd example.. I download a song in a format which does not play in Windows media player. I either change the format of the song or I chose to use another system like Vlc or real et al.But fact remains that I chose to listen to the song any how because I want to. Similarly, when we love someone, we can not blindly find a reason called incompatability. One has to feel the need and the want of a particular person and then only we see the compatibilities. Like in the example,May be there are either ways of finding compatibility between two parties in all situations.
Thus either we agree that its a package deal and a person has to be accepted/loved with goods and flaws otherwise we agree that if we cant accept flaws(which is where we lose compatibility), we put an end and say 'Life moves on'. So, according to me When we dont have the need and want of "Love", we wont try to find compatibility,and if that is true then 'Life'(you/me/individual) which 'moves on' is robotic. OR, Love and Life at some point become antonym.
Hats off to your courage to initiate such a vague subject and streamline it so subtly coupled with a tinge of humor. I hope there is more discussion on this and we all arrive at something if not exactly a conclusion on "LOVE".
Good LOVE LUCK!